Blind Faith – a personal story that may add humor and inspiration to those of you aching over divorce or separation

So I decided it might be nice to share a bit more about me and the type of approach I bring to life and to my practice. I hope sharing my insights will benefit and lift you. So here we go.

Not too long ago, I rented a car for a road trip with my family. I was full of zest and energy as we set course for a small colonial town. When we arrived at this very cute town, we got out of the car and had a lawn picnic. I looked up and realized that we were parked next to a drainage ditch and not in a legitimate parking space. I reached for my rental car keys as I was walking towards the car, and just my luck, I dropped them into that ditch. After beating myself up for being that unlucky and that foolish, I gathered myself together and entered a building to ask for some help. The kind workers there helped me brainstorm, and we created a hook from the end of a mop and a wire clothes hanger. I dangled that hook down into the drainage ditch and fished out my keys in about 10 minutes. Success!!

I tell you this story because I realize in so many ways, it reflects life. For those of you facing uncertain futures, it may feel like you are fishing in the dark for direction. Sometimes, we just have to take a chance, try our best, and believe that if we try, we are more likely to succeed than if we don’t try at all. I know things do not always work out. That would be impossible. But I do believe, for myself and for the clients my firm is privileged enough to help, that we all have to reach for what we seek. My firm will reach for you. We will be creative and persistent, the same as I reached for those keys and creatively found a way out of what seemed like a really outrageous situation. I hope you found this anecdote both entertaining and supportive of hope that things can be better.

Family law, divorce and Covid – the vaccination issue

The issue of vaccination against the Covid virus is affecting families in unprecedented ways. We already have seen a year like no other. And now that children are approved for the vaccine, families have yet another covid topic that divides them. Vaccination of young children is at the forefront of family conflict. In Illinois, we are divided, and the futures of children are at stake. Parents ask themselves if I vaccinate my child/children, will I accidentally negatively affect his/her/their future health in ways not discovered yet ? But if I don’t vaccinate and my child/children get covid, will he/she/they suffer, maybe die or have lifelong lung issues? These are difficult questions for anyone. But for people separating/separated/divorcing/ or divorced, they are particularly contentious. Parents need to face these issues. Ignoring them only postpones the inevitable. We will bring sensitivity and compassion to this and all family law issues. Let us be by your side. We are prepared to file any motions necessary to protect the health of your children.

Divorce, the Holidays, and the Future

We all know the holidays bring memories and reflection. For those of you who are looking at your future and wanting to turn a new leaf, it can be a bittersweet time. You may be feeling alone, like you know you need to change things but don’t know how. Or you know that your relationship isn’t working but you feel stuck. But Halloween, Thanksgiving, and the end of year holidays can bring vision and clarity. They can help you realize that you deserve better. Divorce or separation may be that “better.” It is not something to run from. Self awareness and the idea of better for the whole family is something to run toward. The law is there help give structure and be there as a guide We know that the business of divorce and separation is not fun, but it can lead to so much richer of a life. If you are thinking about this next step and just want to talk (as many people use this time to reflect and not to act), we welcome your inquiries. You do not need to wait until you are perfectly prepared to ask questions and get some answers. This is an imperfect process, and we just want to be there for you as you go through these vulnerable times. We can help you find strength, a support system, clearness of thought, and educated decision-making.