Compassion through Experience

Robin Becker fully understands the vulnerabilities her clients face and chooses to share parts of her own story as a way of reciprocating their sharing of theirs with her. Robin spent over 10 years in divorce court (pre and post judgment) agonizingly observing her children suffer and thrive depending on experience of the day. She grappled with abusive, manipulative and fraudulent tendencies (these details aren’t shared to protect her children). She experienced firsthand losing the dream of what could have been. She faced each day with a sense of loss over the time and money being spent on the legal process and yet holding onto hope that whatever would follow would be better than what had been. She blindly forged into the unknown just as her clients have, not knowing if all would be “ok” but living with the belief that it had to be better than the past.

She introspected, second guessed herself, wondered if she had done all she could have or should have done. She learned firsthand what it was like to have a judge or a child’s attorney tell her how much time she could have with her children and what would be next.

She watched dates that she hoped would end in her case be set and then be re-set. She watched her ex, at times, laugh at the prolonging of the end, as if that was his goal. She felt mocked and insignificant.

And yet, she pushed to the end. In hindsight, she believes with all conviction that a life free from abusive and oppressive ways is well worth the painful path.

In her heart, she still believes marriage and unions are a beautiful expression of choosing one’s family. But a union that is unhealthy is like a cancer and can eat at one’s soul until a person cannot recognize him/herself any longer. It is a slow eroding that often is not obvious until separation.

When the separation comes, so too can come beautiful clarity and another chance at happiness.

And this is what drives her to help her clients to the best of her abilities.